So, lets talk about socialization. We all want our children to grow up as confident, personable, and capable individuals. This goal is a worthy one, and it is our job to help shape the path that they will take to get there. While I agree that being around other people is an important part of that path, I do have a slightly different idea on HOW that should come about.
My parents were very social people. They were actively involved in their church and were always on the look out for people they enjoyed being around. They used to have these monthly parties where couples from all over would come and play games until the wee hours of the morning. The only rules? "No drinking. No drugs. Bring a treat to share." Aside from the monthly fun, friends and family were always stopping by, or we were going to someone else's place. We would gather as families. Mixed ages would relax or play as they wanted. Children would run around outside while the adults lounged in the family room. As I grew, I was allowed to participate in some of the adult time. At the age of 12, I could join the games (pictionary and trivial pursuit were some of the favorites) for an hour or two before being sent to bed. By the time I was 16, I joined full force and loved every minute of it.
Birthday parties at our house were very simple. Mom provided Ice Cream and Cake, and then let us play. We were not allowed to be exclusive. When we invited people to our birthday parties, we invited whole families. This meant that we would often have 30 children of all ages running around. My Mom felt it was silly to just invite my friends, when their siblings were friends with my brothers and sisters too. This also meant that her friends came to stay, since they didn't have to leave children at home. Thus, the parents enjoyed themselves too.
With all of the social things that we did, I discovered I was often better equipped than my public schooled friends to handle different situations. I was just as comfortable with their parents as I was with them, and could also get along with their siblings. I found that their parents liked me, and encouraged the friendship.
The passage into adulthood was an easy one for me. It was natural and complete. I had been slowly encouraged and helped along by my parents, given more and more responsibility for my choices, and they really enjoyed my company. The same is true for my eight younger siblings (there are still three younger than 18, but they are on the right path.) Everyone who meets them is impressed by their friendliness and ease among people. Even the ones who are shy or quiet are not socially inept.
I think, in the end, it is how we encourage our children to blossom and grow than where we decide to school them that will make them capable adults. Practice does indeed make perfect, so it may require a little bit of extra effort on behalf of Homeschooling Parents to bring other people into the lives of their children.